Should we be perfect?
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
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To begin this article, we have decided to urge in our consciousness to find a theme for their relevance can serve all those who read it, maybe not for pleasure but at least that marks a before and after; is not this asking a lot, but for us it was.
Should we be perfect?
know that words only have meaning when a man fills them, when they are full, so we first differentiate to a concept we refer to talk about perfection. Without delving many noticed that the word perfection has at least 3 possible meanings. In the first case that comes to perfection as a theological virtue that everyone should seek to reach to achieve success in their quest to conquer the moral, in a second stage we could speak of perfection and the pursuit of excellence or the highest degree of goodness in things, and now finally it is customary to refer to the term as synonymous with perfection perfection. Perfectionism is the tendency to improve work indefinitely without deciding to consider it finished, under the belief that anything less the level of perfection is unacceptable.
This question, who we like to do everything in the best possible way, we are hovering in our minds until the fatigue can have many answers seem simple. Simple because those who never liked to strive, fix anything, "Do not tell me you meant to do everything right, is not it, if man is not perfect" or "Anyway, I was not made to do well ", and all those simple and easy it shapes us we will not ever been tempted to believe that what we did not was as good as told us although we are welcomed, but not doing "as well as we wanted, we thought wrong.
Both positions are wrong and now we see why. The man to possess intelligence, is equipped to understand that some things are good and bad, ie has a sense of self. Self-awareness allows us to progress to do things always look a little better, but in turn gives us the ability to recognize the gap between what we think we should be and what we really are, and feel ashamed that gap. This sense of Shame is the cause to believe when we hear criticism of something we've done as a comment about the kind of person we are. We usually interpret that to judge an action of ours, we are being judged so much negative worth as people, not just our behavior. And it is here where we begin to find the key that will allow us the answer we seek: the question is not whether we make mistakes and feel bad about it. It is obvious that will happen, anyone who takes seriously the moral demands of life commit a lot of mistakes. The question then discover how we handle our imperfections, as we'll take care of our mistakes to improve that aspect which is not as good as it should be.
When we begin to think of this article, we decided to check in our areas nearer the same question that moves us now. Most of our friends came to the conclusion that yes we should be perfect, as were the Saints, who followed the model of perfection of Jesus Christ. This is why we would like to make this clarification: the Saints were not perfect people. There are models of perfection mythical far. If there are men and women of faith, they could overcome their limits , acknowledging mistakes, and acts of delivery, charity and love that far outweigh any mistakes that are committed.
The person who knows his faults and weaknesses, is smart enough to open and discover the importance that perfection is reserved only for God. Taking this step does not mean giving or accepting bitterly that we are limited. is to understand our humanity, is to recognize that as human beings we are, every day we face new and complex situations, you can not expect anyone to always respond well. If we fear making a mistake by wanting to keep an appearance of perfection, only make things very easy and the results are or have guarantees. Never learn, never grow.
If our friends, our spouse or even our parents can not love as we are, we should be able to distinguish that the problem is not ours. Probably need to be perfect so they can be good, perhaps they want to be better and know no other way to do this or maybe this error is that it is up to a point that is very vulnerable and sensitive to them. But just as we accept is the first step to start changing things we do not like ourselves. We must understand that despite our mistakes people we are still lovable and loved, even though they are not the best way to express it. And for those who are religious should know that God knows everything we've done, but yet we still love and never give us as a lost cause.
To be drawing to a conclusion I would like to tell a little story:
There once was a wheel that was missing a part. It had been removed or had fallen off a triangular piece ever. The wheel would be whole, not lack anything, so I went looking for their share missing. But because it was incomplete could only roll very slowly across the world. Very slowly rolling could take the time to admire the flowers in his path, talking to the butterflies and to even contemplate the greatness and wonder of the Sun
Throughout his journey, he found many parts but none that fit. Some were too big or too small to fill their space, sometimes too square or too sharp, so the left roadside.
Then one day he found the piece that fit perfectly. I was so happy. Now would whole and not want for anything. Incorporated the piece itself and began to roll again. Now that was a perfect wheel could roll very fast, too fast to see the flowers, too fast to talk to the butterflies, I had no time to appreciate the sun
When he saw how different it seemed world when he was running so fast, stopped, left its missing piece to the side of the road and was rolling slowly, looking for its missing piece.
The person who has everything, you never know as desired, as is hope, seek to realize a dream, to experience someone who loves to give you something you've always wanted and neck had, to make mistakes and learn.
A person may feel full when you can be, you can give your money, your time, effort, and thus feel no less a person: "Because there is more joy in giving than receiving." A person fulfilling occurrence when you can accept their limitations, know so well all you can do, as you can not and still feel loved.
I think the answer to the question: Should we be perfect? It is not, because as we were discovering who claims to be perfect and never make mistakes like this claiming to be God . Rather man must seek to be integrated. Being integrated means accepting our faults and weaknesses, but also with all our strengths and capabilities. To have integrity means knowing what is good and what is wrong, and understand that when we do something wrong, is part of our essence the power wrong, but that act bad is not what we stand for life. It is because the challenge of being human is so difficult that nobody can not presume to always make everything right. Our goal should not be done perfectly all we do, but rather do more things right than wrong, and if we do it as consistently as possible as we look back we have done all right.
(Some of the ideas in this article have been taken from the book "Should we be perfect?" By Harold Kushner.)
"The pursuit of perfection makes some people totally unbearable." American Novelist.
"It is clear that all ends are not perfect ends. But the supreme good is, somehow, a perfect end. " Aristotle Greek philosopher.
" The perfection lies in accepting the imperfection of others. "
" Since I am imperfect and I need tolerance and kindness of others, I must also tolerate defects in the world until you find the secret that allows me to remedy them. " Mahatma Gandhi
"In an imperfect world, to live is to transform"
" who love is kind and recognizes that the beloved is not perfect, but it has valuable qualities. "
" Only man of integrity is able to confess their faults and acknowledge his mistakes. "
Benjamin Franklin
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